The Malady of Nonexistence, the Point of Power of Paradoxes and Comparison and Contrast Paradigm


“That which exists can only continue to exist. It will never become nonexistent because non-existence is its own realm. It already contains all the things that will never exist. Whatever doesn’t fit in that realm of non-existence has already existed, exists now and always will exist – because there is nowhere else for it to go.” – Bashar

 The desire for nonexistence is prevalent in today’s culture, especially in western societies. Many feel the harshness of life is unbearable and fantasize about the idea of non-existence. We think to ourselves that we would never get into these problems if we never existed. We use many worldly examples to justify this idea and this further divides us from the source.

People who desire nonexistence are attempting to relieve their pain by shifting the focus on oneself to something external. This doesn’t work no matter how much you cast blame upon circumstances or others, you’ll never escape the emotional turmoil because it’s within you. Truth be told though, we cannot simply non-existent because we already exist. Therefore it become important for us to comprehend this understanding so that we can move past our old habits. The desire for nonexistence is a attribute of victimhood. The pain though will not simply go away, it exists, therefore by virtue that it exists it’s meant to fulfill a purpose.

We must come to accept the pain in our lives otherwise it will consume us. Start to see pain as a catalyst to help you learn more about yourself. Pain comes in many forms, but the most prevalent form of pain that springs forth desires of nonexistence is emotional pain. Physical pain is more tolerable for many, but emotional pain is something many of us cannot handle. This derives from the fact that we never really learned proper emotional management. We are swept away by our emotions and it can seem overwhelming at times. There is a way though for us to experience emotions, rather than emotions experiencing us.

The best way to handle your emotions is to take responsibility of your life. That means to accept your emotions as being a tool. Emotions themselves are neutral until we form some kind of an attachment to them. It is we the definers who determine the polarity of emotions.

For example, let’s say we have this belief that anger is bad. Whenever we get angry we feel guilty and shameful. We criticize ourselves for getting upset and try to control our anger so that it will not happen again. We turn our experiences of anger into something that is negative, thus we feel negative about ourselves when we become angry. This is unnecessary though, anger is perfectly natural. Anger is the drawing of the line, the statement of “This far and no further!” When we view anger as a necessary tool to help establish certain boundaries, than we can express anger in a form that will benefit us.

I do want to mention though that anger should not be directed at individuals. When we get angry at individuals we tend to start conflicts. You may be wondering how can I express anger in a healthy manner if I cannot express it at individuals? That’s not what I’m trying to imply though, you can direct your anger to individuals indirectly. What I mean by this is that when you become upset identify the idea that is behind this. Your getting upset over an idea, not a person. Don’t make this personal, keep your anger directed at the idea and make sure you clearly state that to others.

Separate People

We need to learn to focus on the ideas that people are embodying instead of the person themselves. People are so much more than what they think, say or do. Don’t allow yourself to form ideas that will separate you from others. When you become angry, identify the idea and remember that this person may be unconsciously or consciously embodying this idea. Always keep in mind that this person  is a beautiful being of light. When we separate our thoughts and actions from people, we can see that we’re all the same. We are so much more than what we think, believe and act.

This is just an example in handing anger, the key though in managing emotions is to take responsibility of your life. This will shatter the victimhood mentality which by the way is the leading cause of negativity. We as a species have invested so much into this victimization that we literally have forgotten we’re the ones creating these experiences in the first place. Victimhood is a form of separation, when you take responsibility of your life, you reclaim your power to mold your life into something you prefer.

“When you deal with paradox, that’s when you know you are close to the seed at the center. Because, only at the center do all-apparent contradictions find themselves reconciled as one. Only from the center do all apparent polarities issue. They are all there. They are one thing.” – Bashar

Paradoxes are the points of power awaiting our understanding in order to help assist us in our evolution. We’ve come to believe that paradoxes will never be solved and that they’re simply impossible to understand in their totality. This may resemble the Truth in one way or another, but let’s remember that this is simply one point of view on the idea called paradoxes.

There exists another kind of understanding in regards to paradoxes. This understanding is basically the opposite of the one we just went over above. It’s the belief that you can understand paradoxes in their totality. As you can see even these understandings of paradoxes hold a essence of polarity. Polarity is a very important component in the third dimension. It allows much experience to come into manifestation so that entities can gain what they need in order to further their own evolution.

Our way of perceiving paradoxes is why we cannot solve many of them. What we as a species have failed to grasp is the nature we perceive our reality affects everything. So if we continue to practice contrast, then we’ll continue to create these differences. A paradox is a result of contrast, because to contrast is to separate and to separate is to forget that all is one.

When we start balancing contrasting with comparison then true understanding will come to our awareness. Skeptics of the day are infamous for their abilities to contrast, but to a point that is unhealthy. They’ve allowed themselves to be indoctrinated to the point of when the disclosures comes out, they’ll be the most discredited individuals ever. Most skeptics are a service to self type entities. They desire to be right so that they can hold themselves in high regard. They view things in terms of what they believe can be true, rather than what is true. They’re so emotionally invested in their outlook of life that they don’t even realize that they continue to perpetuate their ignorance through unconscious habits.

The ignorant are ignorant of their ignorance

For example, I’ve seen many skeptics see proof that something isn’t what they thought it was; but since the skeptic so vehemently believed he/she was right he/she rejected the whole thing all together. They either use the “But” argument or just invalidate the findings based upon scientific procedure. This happens a lot more than you would expect in this day and age. This is caused by emotional misunderstanding; because they don’t realize that their attitudes and emotions play a very important role in deciding what they believe and don’t believe.

Getting back to paradoxes, as you can see duality plays a important role. Contrasting isn’t bad, it’s just another way to experience life. We’ve just taken it to a extreme, we’ve used contrast(separation) to the point where we believe ourselves separate from creation. We’ve lost the knowing of our divine heritage and now we’re extremely analytical. We think too much and feel too little. We are spirit life experiencing a human life, not human life experiencing a spiritual life. In the words of Yoda, “Luminous Beings are we, not this crude matter.


In order for us to evolve as a species we must start comparing and finding similarities instead of differences. Switch from contrasting to comparing will be a vital step in reuniting with our creator. Comparison brings unity into focus, we allow ourselves to see the elements that connect everything. This understanding forms the basis for the saying of “We are One”. In scientific terms you could equate comparison as the means to discovering the Unified Field Theory. You cannot bring true understanding through contrasting alone, it can only be achieved with a balanced approach of comparison and contrasting.

Comparison allows a bridge to be made between two seemingly opposite elements. It is the mending of paradoxes and true moral and spiritual edification. With comparison we bring wisdom back into the fold. Comparison sees contrasting as a equally important element, because it sees the unification of two understandings as one, therefore bringing wisdom into realization. On other hand though, contrasting sees comparison as a weakness because contrast focuses on what is different. It cannot focus on what is similar, thus it will not see comparison as being equally important as contrasting. It will never find true wisdom in itself, eventually it will have to embrace the nature of comparison as well.

Comparison can be equated as being the light and contrasting as the darkness, light sees the usefulness of darkness, but darkness cannot see the usefulness of light. Darkness separates itself from light so that it can experience independence(Free-Will), but it forgets that Free-Will is an illusion; darkness is birthed from light. There is no such thing as darkness, just the absence of light. Therefore darkness is nonexistent and there is only light in the end, just as there is only comparisons(similarities) in the end, not contrasts(differences). So my questions for you is, are you separate or one with everything?

Timothy Frappier