Love Is Found From Within

Love is what you make of it. We are the definers and molders of our own reality. Our environment, awareness and perception is a product of our own creation. This idea that we’ve encapsulated within the archetype of Love is our creation.

There are many different facets of Love; but yet even they all hold a common trait that is the source of that idea. That being Free-Will; we live in universe that allows us to choose what it is exactly we wish to believe and experience in life. We were all given the gift of true autonomy by our loving and wonderful source.

Source created a environment, a universe and life that had no meaning. Now many may believe this to be a negative thing; but yet in reality that is far from the Truth. This universe is empty and meaningless so that WE the individuals may have the freedom to CHOOSE whatever meaning we desire.

That is the greatest gift of all; to be given the ability to choose what it is we wish in our lives. There is no overlaying meaning or purpose to this life because if that was the case; free-will wouldn’t exist.

We are truly the ones who create our reality. When we realize this Truth; life becomes a matter of embodying what it is you want. Follow what excites; for Love is intertwined within the bliss. Follow your bliss and life will be more of what you desire.

Timothy Frappier

Love Yourself Enough to Express Yourself

Freedom is the precursor to full and authentic expression. It allows you to shine your light into this world. Many times we find ourselves conflicted over expressing ourselves because we’re afraid of how others will perceive you.

The thing to remember is that it doesn’t matter what people think about you. Their judgments, thoughts and beliefs can only affect you by consent. We ourselves are the ones who buy into this belief that others can influence us or that their thoughts and opinions matter more than our own.

This is why many of us fail to express ourselves; because we value the thoughts of others and not our own. We must be brave enough to express ourselves no matter what; don’t allow fear to hold you down. If people don’t like what you say; that’s their problem.

That doesn’t mean you should be insensitive or cruel to others. You should abide by the Golden Rule and treat others the way you would want to be treated. What I’m trying to convey is to be yourself. You don’t have to be afraid of what others will say or think.

This is the trap that I’ve found myself in many times. I was the type of person who just wanted to get along with everyone. I would never rock the boat; I would do what everyone else was doing to fit in. This though led to much suppression of my true self. Many things I wouldn’t do or say because I wanted to fit in.

This behavior will only leave one feeling empty and hollow. That’s what I’ve come to learn along my journey of life. Every time I failed to express myself I was paying tribute to fear. Fear began to run my life and slowly lead me down a path of misery and pain. Fear is a poor manager of one’s life and it will only destroy your sense of self-worth and joy. When we fail to express ourselves; we’ll develop depression, anxiety and many other mental illnesses.

Whatever it is that you love to do; do it. Don’t be afraid if it doesn’t conform to what society deems acceptable. Express yourself whenever you get the calling to. If you see someone who needs help with something and you’re first reaction is to assist them; don’t hesitate and make up excuses why you shouldn’t; follow that impulse of wanting to help another human being. That’s your True Self wanting to be expressed.

That’s something I would do all the time; I would get these impulses to assist or do something good for someone else; but then my logical and rational self would step in and make up all kinds of excuses on why I shouldn’t or cannot help. This is fear trying to repress your true self. Every act of kindness makes a difference in freeing humanity from the chains of fear.

Don’t allow your synthetic self to govern your life. This false persona will only lead you down the path of misery, pain and suffering. It seeks everything that is tied to this world; this world is impermanent. That is why identification with this worldly existence will corrode ones self-worth, happiness, joy and abundance. When we sell ourselves short by identifying with our finite self we lose sight to who we truly are. Each and every single one of us are eternal beings of light. Don’t trade your eternal self for a finite self. Respect this worldly existence for what it is; but don’t attribute your entire sense of meaning and purpose to it.

Be yourself, be love and watch the world flourish. Say whatever is on your mind; if your intent is not to harm another; then don’t hesitate to say it. Don’t dwell on their interpretation; what’s important is to express yourself. As long as your intention is to not harm another and simply share your thoughts or opinions; that’s all that matters.

That’s why I’ve started this website because it’s been instrumental in allowing me to express myself. Each article that I share and write assists in overcoming my own fears. This is crucial for me on my journey; to not suppress my true self. If you can relate to what I’ve shared then by all means find an avenue to express yourself. It could be a website like myself or it could be something entirely different.

People use a wide variety of means to express themselves. Some use art, writing, cooking, working and teaching to express themselves. These are just few examples from the infinite well of ways in expressing oneself. For each and every single person on this world there is a unique expression that only they can fulfill. Find that gem within yourself and show it to the world. Your example will help others break the chains of fear and help uplift this world to state of being that is worthy for humanity. Be love, be brave and be your true self.

Timothy Frappier

When a Child’s Life is Turbulent Parents Need To Take Solace in Compassion and Understanding

Life can be very hectic in our modern society. There seems to exists a vast plethora of ideas, things and situations in which we should worry about. We use worrying as a means of protecting ourselves from what we’ve come to believe is negative. In reality though; worrying doesn’t help us whatsoever. What little comfort or benefit we gain from it is short lived.

Many times we worry about things that don’t even come into being. For instance; let’s say a parent worries about their children. They think worrying is acceptable and that it’s perfectly natural. In reality though worrying is a fear based behavior and it doesn’t help whatsoever. In fact it is counterproductive to helping others.


Worrying will only create more of what we don’t want in our lives. When we worry about things; we’re projecting fear based energy; when this fact is coupled with the tenants of the law of attraction we see that our worrying is the reason why we experience more of the things we don’t want. Fear attracts fear; so if we keep being fearful; we’ll keep manifesting and attracting more fears into our life. Like attracts like and remember the saying:


When parents worry about their children it’s because they don’t want to destroy their sense of duty to their children’s wellbeing. The desire to protect our children is perfectly natural, but what many parents do is that they suppress their children with their attempts to protect them and fail to see they’re doing more damage than good by doing so. Many times parents project their ideas and beliefs onto their children in a attempt to make them the same as them in order to secure their safety and wellbeing.

Many parents don’t know the gifts and talents their children possess because their so focus on protecting their children that they don’t see the magnificent person their child is. They address things from the surface level and never really get the pleasure to understand their child. For instance let’s use an example. Let’s say Billy’s interests, hobbies and work is vastly different from his parents. Billy chooses to start a blog which helps thousands feel better about themselves everyday; but yet no one in his family has ever read a single article. They don’t know all the good that Billy does on this website. His ideas appear to be radical to their way of perceiving reality.

Let’s say that this blog that Billy started doesn’t make him money whatsoever. The parents try encourage Billy to get a full time job, but Billy doesn’t want to do that because he wouldn’t have time to write on his blog. Billy’s parents express disappointment and lack of support because they believe Billy needs a full time job. This creates a schism between Billy and his parents. Billy feels he cannot truly express himself to his parents because whenever he does his parents outright reject his ideas by virtue that it creates a sense of discomfort within them.

This sense of discomfort derives from Cognitive Dissonance which is when you’re confronted with an idea or belief that contrasts your own. They enter into a mild form of fight or flight mode and resist it vehemently. Most people don’t even possess the awareness of this process taking place. They believe it’s a perfectly natural response to what is. They view this belief, situation or idea as being a threat. Thus they conclude that if it is a threat to them; it is a threat to their child as well.

That doesn’t mean Billy’s parents are in the wrong or doing something bad. They just misunderstand Billy’s perspective and beliefs. Billy loves them regardless of them knowing what he does; because love doesn’t place expectations upon others. Love is free and flows with ease. We as guardians should strive to allow children to make their own choices and live life according to their own internal compass without pressure from parents.

What we see nowadays though is parents exerting their beliefs and opinions of life onto their children and if the child resists very little support comes from the parents. They justify this lack of cooperation through many ways; many times using guilt and fear to rationalize it. The Truth is though parents should encourage freedom of choice without pressuring them or making them feel “bad” for choosing to live a life that goes against their own beliefs.


Many parents nowadays believe they have it all figured out and that children need to solely learn from them. In reality though; there is no limit to how much we can learn from our children. We see this happen in schools as well; where teachers believe they know it all and if a student shares an idea that goes against what they were taught is the Truth; they will reject it. They don’t even consider it a possibility because they believe their degree makes them right. To be an true leader, a true authority one needs to remember that you never stop learning. There is never a time when we have it all figured out; when you believe you do; that’s when you know you don’t. The Truth is indifferent because it simply is what it is; when teachers reject ideas it’s because their ego is threatened.

Parents do this from a honest intent to help their children; but their misconstrued understanding of freedom has warped their sense of right and wrong. Parents believe their sense of right is the only one valid. They suppress new ideas and anything that they feel conflicts with their sense of continuity. If something comes into their awareness that threatens their sense of what is “right” they resist it.


We need to allow children to make their own choices; but that doesn’t mean we allow them to come into harms way. If a child is walking on the road and about to get ran over; we run over to the child to get them out of the way. If a child is starting to make decisions and incorporate beliefs that raise concerns we can then talk it through with them. We must do this from a standpoint of not fixing or changing their minds; but instead from the mentality of compassion and understanding. Most of the problems we encounter in life derive from fear. If our child is having difficulties it’s because they are afraid.

Fear can be disarmed with understanding and compassion. Understanding your child is the key in helping heal their fears. When your understand them you’re essentially shedding light upon the darkness. You drive away fear with your willingly to understand and help them feel more connected. Compassion allows them to know that others really do care about them and that helps them open up even more. When you strive to understand your child you can learn so much from them.


Cultivate an atmosphere of understanding and compassion. Practice listening and remaining indifferent to what is brought into your awareness. Don’t judge what is said and try not to influence them to think otherwise. Guide them with your own understanding of life and what you’ve discovered works for them. Don’t tell them to do anything; let them decide what is right. With a little guidance you can help them discover the answers within themselves. We’re meant to guide our children to their own understanding, not ours.

We can only share our own perspective and opinions on things. We cannot force them to change or control them. Controlling children will not work; it will cause them to rebel even more and slide deeper into darkness and despair. Don’t place any expectations upon them; let them be themselves, even it it goes against what you believe is right. Because the Truth is what is right for you may not be right for them. You never know they may be very successful with what they choose to do.

If something truly is bad for them; you must trust that even if they don’t listen to you at first that eventually they will come to see it as being bad through experience. If you try to control them and attempt to stop it from happening you only delay the inevitable because they will do it regardless of what you do because it’s something that can only be learned through experience. Some things we can guide our children to understand; but other things they will have to learn from experience. This is a fact of life and when we accept this truth we allow our children to empower themselves.

So my beloveds, be loving, open-minded, kind and compassionate to your children. Allow them to simply be who they are. Remain open to who they are and see the magic that has always been within them.

Timothy Frappier