Why Laughing Is Healthy: Laughter Is the Best Medicine When It Comes to Heart Health

Source: Natural News

Laughter doesn’t cost a single cent. It comes freely and helps a person deal with life’s absurdities. Sometimes, a good joke is all you need to perk right up after a downward slump, but laughter can do a lot more than just make you feel good. It turns out that regularly tickling your metaphorical funny bone with a good joke is one of the easiest ways to maintain a healthy heart.

There’s a good reason why you should laugh every single day. Frequent laughter can actually leave a positive impact on your overall health and well-being. These physical effects can last up to 24 hours. That natural high and rush of blood you feel after a side-splitting fit of laughter are signs of this. Laughter causes your body to release beta-endorphins, your body’s natural feel-good chemicals that temporarily relieve pain and are responsible for that natural high. This creates a chain reaction, releasing nitric oxide and causing an increase in blood being pumped through your body. Nitric oxide dilates the inner lining of your blood vessels, while also reducing artery inflammation and preventing the formation of cholesterol plaque. (Related: Laughter really is the best medicine — Lower blood sugar, ease pain and boost health with a daily dose of mirth.)

Furthermore, research suggests that laughter can provide physical health benefits such as increasing the levels of HDL in your body and decreasing your stress hormone levels. HDL is high-density lipoprotein, otherwise known as the “good cholesterol.” Heart disease is no joke and research tells us that low levels of HDL cholesterol are linked to an increased risk of heart disease. On the other hand, healthy levels of HDL cholesterol may help protect against stroke and heart attack. Stress hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine cause our blood vessels to constrict. Laugh away those stress hormones to promote healthy blood circulation.

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Laughter additionally boosts your immune system and strengthens your ability to fight off disease. It does this by increasing the amount of antibody-producing cells in your immune system.

Ways to get your daily laughter dosage

It cannot be understated how much a sense of humor administered in daily doses truly makes for the best medicine. Laughter is the only contagious thing you will want to spread to other people. Here are some ways to stay lighthearted while also keeping a healthy heart:

  • Laughter yoga. Exercise is great for your heart but laughter yoga elevates it to a whole new level. Laughter yoga combines simulated laughter exercises with gentle breathing exercises. On its own, yoga already promotes mental health by relieving stress and anxiety but this form of yoga will help you learn how to laugh at life even when there isn’t anything remotely humorous going on around you. Gain the health benefits of both laughter and yoga at the same time with this revolutionary concept in mind-body exercise.
  • Spend time with friends and family. Being with the people you care about helps cultivate fun memories. Schedule a regular game night for everyone to spend quality time with each other or go to a comedy club. Feel free to act silly with those closest to you. Even embarrassing moments can give everyone something to laugh at for a long time. Children are also an endless source of laughter.
  • Don’t take life so seriously. Find the humor in your daily life, even in small things. Every little bit helps. Your mental health will also thank you for it.
  • Surround yourself with things that make you laugh. Comic books, videos, and photos that can give you an instant chuckle make for the perfect arsenal to combat negativity. At the very least, they can put a smile on your face and lift you right back up for a few moments of the day.

If you want to learn more about how to keep your heart healthy, you can read more articles at Heart.news.

Sources include:

UCHealth.org

Health.ClevelandClinic.org

Heart.org 1

Heart.org 2

DoYouYoga.com

 

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Reaching a Place of Total Allowing

Source: Calm Down Mind

The space of inner wholeness arises when you release most of the negative energy momentum that has been accumulated in your body/mind. The way to release this momentum is by letting go of giving new fuel to it, so that it runs purely on its past fuel which gets exhausted with time. The various ways in which you end up giving new fuel to an existing negative momentum are

– By fearing the negative feelings, and hence trying to suppress it

– By believing the negative thoughts to be true and hence giving interest to them

– By fearing the negative thoughts and “trying” to suppress them

– By “trying” to ignore the negative thought/feelings in the hopes that they will disappear (you can sense that you are trying to ignore them out of your fear of them)

– By trying to keep yourself distracted in activities to avoid the inner negativity (this is just a form of suppression)

Basically, if you notice, anything you do out of “fear” of the negativity fuels the negativity further – it’s like an indirect fuel. Also, when you believe the negativity you are directly fueling it. When you try to push away a thought or a feeling, out of fear of it, it indirectly fuels its presence in you – you stay shackled to it. Scientifically this is because when you fear something you are giving “attention” to its presence, and attention is “concentrated focus” which has the power to amplify, or give fuel, to its presence in your reality in someway. Just like when you love something you give focus to it, when you fear something you give focus to it – fear and love both pull your focus.

Don’t protect your being

The first step to being free of a negativity is to stop fearing its presence. The only way you can do this is by consciously allowing it to arise in you – be it a feeling or a thought, without trying to get rid of it. You may think that if you allow it then it will take over your life or that it will manifest in some form, but this is a misunderstanding. In truth, life-energy being pure positive in its natural vibration cannot hold a negative vibration unless you are fueling it with your personal focus. So, when you stay open to allowing it, you are not giving any “concentrated focus” to it, and hence the negative energy gets dissolved as it’s not sustained by life-energy.

The act of allowing is free of fear, and hence the negativity does not get the fuel of your fear to sustain itself. Total allowing is total letting go because you are no longer holding on to any way of protecting yourself against what arises as a feeling or a thought – for me one of the best pointers for letting go came from a teacher called Mooji when he said “Don’t try to protect your being, it’s un-harm-able”. Only when you let go of trying to protect yourself, from your feelings and thoughts, do you realize the spaciousness of your being – when you are trying to protect yourself against a feeling/thought your being becomes “narrow” (closed), when you let go of your defenses you become “spacious” (open). When your being is narrow, even the smallest negativity can hit you hard. When your being is spacious you are not overwhelmed by anything.

Should I be aware or should I let go?

Awareness initially can feel like active watching, because it’s like you are watching a thought or a feeling almost as an effort. This is how everyone starts off on this journey of waking up from the mind’s pull, by becoming an active watcher of their mind. It does feel like an effort initially because you are not used to being aware of your mind, since you are mostly, habitually, lost in the mind. This watching of thoughts/feelings is also a “brain activity”, because this “active awareness”, or efforted awareness, also comes from the brain – its just like you are watching something keenly, only this time the “something” is your mind, your space of thoughts and feelings, instead of the outside. This type of active awareness is needed for a while to grow in the power of awareness – this is a period where techniques are of a help, you can do these following techniques to increase the power of your awareness

– Spend time watching your mind and your feelings, without any outside distraction, may be for 15-30 minutes day

– During your day, every time you become conscious that you were lost in the mind or an outside activity, spend a minute or two being aware of your surroundings and your feeling/thought space,

– Be more aware of your body movements

– Bring awareness to your body’s energy by sensing it more keenly

You get the idea, it’s just about becoming a more acute observer of your mind, body and surroundings, so that you are not lost in a haze of activity. This awareness takes time to grow stronger because you are not habituated to being aware, you are more habituated to be pulled around by the mind. Don’t be too hard on yourself though, don’t try to pull off feats like trying to be forcefully aware for long periods, it’s not needed. Just allow your ability for awareness to keep growing slowly and steadily, it naturally takes time, you cannot become strong in your awareness overnight – usually it can take a few months on its own.

While your awareness becomes stronger, you become more keenly aware of your inner negativity, the things that were suppressed in you as well as the negative momentum in your mind. It can feel a bit overwhelming to become aware of so much negativity. This is the time when you start “letting go”, and allowing, instead of trying to be aware. You consciously relax, and allow the negativity in the space of relaxed awareness, you are no longer trying to be “keenly aware”, your awareness just become relaxed and you allow the negativity the space to arise – only when you allow this space can it be dissolved, or released, because in this space the negativity gets touched by the wholeness of life-energy. At one point, you stop “trying” to be aware, you just become naturally open and spacious, this is when you start sensing the inner wholeness and feel stable in your being.

So in summary this how the phase moves

Efforted awareness – Relaxed awareness – Total allowing

The state of “total allowing” means you are no longer in any fear of the negativity, this is a state of total letting go because there is no sense of making an effort to let go or be aware, you are truly not bothered by it – not as a means of denial like “I don’t care” but as an unconditionally open space of “I am not afraid”. The state of being “just open” takes time and it comes naturally, you can’t pretend or fake it, it’s the natural state of being without resistance to life.

Understanding the Process of Transformation

Source: One Way Forward

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I feel a basic knowledge of the process of transformation, regarding our personal and collective growth, needs to be brought to light, as it seems it is being lost within the chaotic distraction that is our everyday life. Now more than ever, we must remain focused in our journey and not allow ourselves to become swept up in the tornado of dis-information and propaganda set to keep us from discovering our true potential. It is time to wake up and take charge, therefore, in the interest of spreading awareness, I would like to lay out a general procedure that, when adhered to, leads to real change, both individually and collectively.

Here are my three steps to transformation (with explanations):

Step 1. STOP – recognize, take responsibility, assess

As the saying goes: “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you’ll continue to get what you’ve always got!”

We cannot change and stay the same, therefore, the first thing that needs to be done when we come up against discordance in our lives is to STOP! We must assess our lives and identify the areas in which we have become stuck. Recognize that the ways we have been dealing with (or ignoring) these issues is not working, for if it was, then we would not still be suffering them.

To effectively move into the next steps, we must resolve to destroy the patterns that have not worked for us in the past so that we may clear the way for the new tracks to be laid. This begins by becoming aware of them.

An important aspect to this step is in taking responsibility for our own life experience. We must cease blaming others and see that our experience is shaped from within. Only then can we move from a state of victimhood into a space where we may begin to reclaim our power as sovereign beings.

Step one takes a lot of reflection. We must constantly assess where we are operating from and the underlying emotion that is driving our actions. This can be a daunting process as it may reveal to us just how little control we have had in our life. However, it is also very powerful, as in finding where we no longer wish to be, we establish a clear direction for our steps to come.

Summary – CULTIVATE AWARENESS & DECONSTRUCT OLD PATTERNS!

 

Step 2. HEAL – allow, acknowledge, feel, forgive, let go

Healing cannot ever be overlooked and is vital to our transformation in that it allows us to fully process the extent of our experiences and their effect on our being, so we may go beyond. As these experiences are processed effectively, we clear our path of any debris that may have caused repeated stumbles down the line.

To heal we must first acknowledge we have been hurt. The origin of this hurt is unimportant when it comes to healing, as whether generated from outside or within, the resulting discomfort is what must be addressed, and this will not be found outside of yourself. The eyes must be turned inward. Our pains, fears, traumas, or whatever is there, must be felt deeply. It is not necessary to understand them, as this is just the left-brain trying to justify and understand what needs to be felt. Emotions are the function of the right-brain and the interference of the thinking mind at this point only serves to perpetuate suffering. Now is not the time to analyse, now is the time to meet the feelings head-on and let that energy begin to disperse. Understanding, when necessary, arrives on its own as insight and knowing as opposed to an intellectualized conclusion.

As we reflect within our healing process, we may realize where we have placed blame or where we have reprimanded ourselves. This presents us with an opportunity to forgive. With the work we have done in step 1, we have hopefully at least begun the process of taking responsibility for our experience. In this light, we may be able to see how the power to heal is born within our own ability to let go of the past, forgive (ourselves and others) and love from a place of unconditional care for our life and the lives of others.

Sometimes a part of healing is in calling ourselves out, stepping into our power and facing what we have allowed to manipulate and control us. This goes hand in hand with step 1, Stopping those old ways, and within these powerful actions of standing up for ourselves, we find the keys to your liberation. “Outside” forces can only have power over us if we give it to them through fear and submission. When we realize that they cannot exist without our participation, we are on our way to breaking through the density of such illusions!

Summary – FORGIVE THE PAST, FEEL THE PRESENT & LOVE THE PROCESS OF SHEDDING SKINS

Step 3. CREATE – new patterns, habits & pathways, visualize and ACT!

At this point it might seem that the hard work is done, however, if this last step is not seen through, then we may as well have not even bothered with the precursors. For personal transformation to be allowed to flower and not wilt it must encompass our whole being and become our new way of life.

There are many experiences that may serve as catalysts to transformation, however, the real and lasting transformation rests within an individual’s ability to integrate insights gained into their everyday life as new ways of thinking and being. To help solidify this new way of being in one’s life, new patterns must be established where the old ones are being transcended.

As we uproot the weeds that were previously stunting our growth, we must take care to replenish the soil with loving attention and sow seeds that will nourish and support our journey moving forward. In other words, as we have stopped the old habits and patterns, and filled in, or healed, the holes they had left, we have then established a healthy base from which we can create positive new patterns that are in alignment with the higher vision that is coming through to us.

When creating a new reality, it is important to have at least some idea of the direction in which you are travelling. If you are having trouble getting specifics, look at your life up until this point. Look at what has brought you joy, where you find your happiness. When you daydream what are your common fantasies? In your life, have there been signs or experiences that, when viewed together, seem to be pointing in a specific direction? These are your clues. It could be that you have lived through some very traumatic experiences, but that in the process of healing them within your life, you have obtained valuable insight that lends to some sort of humanitarian work in that area. Sometimes it is clear beyond any doubt, and sometimes we must take a leap of faith in the general direction calling us and trust that we will land where we are meant to be.

With clear focus, healthy new patterns and determination to be a living the expression of your inner-most desires, the only thing left to do is to align your actions and live the dream! From one step to the next, you will find that as things are in alignment, the effort required for creation is minimal as the universe mirrors to you that which you are putting out. However, in a world that provides many hurdles, persistence is key. Don’t settle for anything less than what you have chosen for yourself. You are the creator!

Step 3 Summary – CLEAR FOCUS, COURAGE & ACTION, THIS IS YOUR CREATION, CHOOSE TO SHINE!

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So, in a nut shell, that’s it!

There are many areas I could delve into to give more depth to this process (balance, vibration and the process of manifestation would be a good start), but these are the basics that I believe we should all be familiar with. So, there you go. No excuses, no regrets, make for yourself a life you Love to live and together we will thrive beyond the reaches of the controlling and oppressive forces that do their best to blot out the sun and keep us in a morbid state of ignorance.

Now is our time to shine!

Peace, Love and Liberation to ALL!

JPK

30/07/18

I Have Returned And I Will Be More Active On This Blog

I’ve been experiencing a purging this year and it has intensified in these last few months. Many things have been coming to the surface that I’ve been having to deal with and address as soon as possible. It’s been a rollercoaster, but I’m getting through it.

I wanted to apologize to you all for not being active on this blog. It was necessary though, I had a lot of shadow work that needed my attention. I’m still in the process of shedding the darkness, but I’ve reached a point where I will be more active once again.

All those who prayed, supported, and helped me on my journey I want to give a special thanks to. This process of awakening has been extremely difficult for me and I intend to one day share my story as to how it went for me.

As many of you know, life upon this planet can be very difficult. There are times in which all the despair, pain and suffering really get’s to us. Where we feel all is hopeless and pointless. Yet in reality there is cause for hope. What we are going through is a birthing process.

When we shed our own darkness we can then walk in the light. The darkness I have been dealing with is an internal one; I discovered that I had a lot of nasty, dark and very negative emotions within me. A lot of it is imprinted upon us through media, society and other influences, but then some of it is uniquely your own based upon your past and future lives.

My major problem was acceptance, I had a hard time accepting this reality as is. I felt and believed that the way this existence is setup is phony, fraudulent and deplorable. I even brought my objections to the Infinite Creator. I would argue with Source about everything. My mind would go into a frantic and start bringing things to the surface that justified my stance.

As I look back at it though, I see this was necessary in order for me to see aspects of myself that need to be dealt with. One can only become aware of the darkness when we allow it to come to the surface. Otherwise it lays dormant inside us and cannot be remedied.

Thus all the hardship, turmoil and struggles I’ve been experiencing are actually blessings in disguise. It’s a good sign that this is happening, because it allows me to resolve these issues. Each time we deal with a shadow aspect of ourselves not only do we release something that doesn’t serve us, but we make room for more love and light to enter into our being.

We hold many negative experiences, emotions and energies within our physical body. When we actively do shadow work we release these stored up negative energies and make room for the light to flow within us. Many have spoken about this before and this isn’t something new. This is the main reason for our negativity. We refuse to let go of things we supposedly don’t want, but yet when we are given the opportunity to let it go, many of us keep holding on to it. That’s what happened with me, but now I’ve realized that I have to let it go. Otherwise it will continue to spiral out of control. So I’m working on my internal  critic and actively taking steps to be more positive, open-minded and acceptable.

I will be writing more once again, I’ll also be posting more articles from other sources as well. Again thank you all for your help and support. I love each and every single one of you and wish you many blessings.

With much Love,

Timothy Frappier

SIMPLE WAY TO HANDLE STRESS AND ANXIETY AS IT’S HAPPENING, AND SCIENCE PROVES IT

Source: Waking Times

Life is complicated. Even when we know we shouldn’t over-react to stressful situations, freak-outs happen. It takes practice and perseverance to train ourselves to stay calm when everything around us falls apart. It is not easy, but we can continue trying. Here’s one simple technique that may help you handle stress and anxiety at the moment it’s happening. It is called emotional freedom technique (EFT) and anyone can learn it.

Handle Stress Before It Becomes Chronic

Two of the simplest tools for handling stress as it’s happening are to take some slow breaths or count to 10. As a mother of three, I have used these many times. But sometimes, when there’s a truly stressful situation at work or something is causing you lots of anxiety, counting to 10 really doesn’t work. Your brain and body need more.

When you face a stressful situation, your body responds physically. The brain sets off an alarm system in the body, which responds by producing extra stress hormones. Specifically, the adrenal glands on top of the kidneys make extra cortisol.

The body can typically handle a few random stressful moments, here and there. But many of us are dealing with daily stress due to a work or life situation. As well, many of us living in big cities just can’t help to get frazzled by the fast pace of life.

This is when problems arise. Here’s what the Mayo Clinic says:

The long-term activation of the stress-response system — and the subsequent overexposure to cortisol and other stress hormones — can disrupt almost all your body’s processes. This puts you at increased risk of numerous health problems, including: Anxiety, Depression, Digestive problems, Headaches, Heart disease, Sleep problems, Weight gain, Memory and concentration impairment.

Science Looks at How Tapping Affects Cortisol Levels

study published in the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease found that EFT, aka tapping, lowered the major stress hormone cortisol significantly more than other interventions tested.

The study evaluated 83 subjects. Researchers randomly assigned each participant to a single hour-long session of EFT, talk therapy, or rest. The results showed that cortisol levels in the rest and therapy groups declined by an average of 14%. Remarkably, cortisol levels in the EFT group declined by 24%.

Tapping is a simple method that anyone can practice. The first element of the practice is to tap on a series of acupuncture points on the body. The second component is to repeat certain phrases related to the stressful event or situation. These statements are made in an accepting way, and thus, help diffuse the situation.

Garret Yount, Ph.D., of the California Pacific Medical Center Research Institute,
 who coauthored the study stated:

This is exciting because it is the first randomized controlled trial of EFT to evaluate a physiological biomarker (i.e., cortisol levels) and it shows robust, positive effects. It sets the stage for further research to explore whether EFT affects other physiological systems, including the expression of genes involved in stress response.

Free Tools to Reduce Your Stress in Under 10 Minutes

Just so you can see how easy and effective tapping can be, check out the video below. Just watch, repeat the verbal cues, and see your stress melt away. Once you follow this video a few times, you’ll remember what to say. Then, you’ll be able to defuse your stress anytime, anywhere.

In addition, here are some great free meditation that incorporate EFT and verbal cues to help you reduce stress, anxiety and handle all types of unpleasant situations. Go here for Free Tapping Meditations.

If you want to know more about the location of the acupressure points to tap, check out this article I wrote about tapping and treatment of PTSD: Drug-free Therapy Shows Potential to Heal Trauma, PTSD and Chronic Pain. There you will find a short video by Jessica Ortner where she takes you through the basic tapping points.

Please share your experiences and results with EFT in the comments.

Read more articles by Anna Hunt.

About the Author

Anna Hunt is writer, yoga instructor, mother of three, and lover of healthy food. She’s the founder of Awareness Junkie, an online community paving the way for better health and personal transformation. She’s also the co-editor at Waking Times, where she writes about optimal health and wellness. Anna spent 6 years in Costa Rica as a teacher of Hatha and therapeutic yoga. She now teaches at Asheville Yoga Center and is pursuing her Yoga Therapy certification. During her free time, you’ll find her on the mat or in the kitchen, creating new kid-friendly superfood recipes.

Sources:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037

https://www.eftuniverse.com/eft-related-press-releases/study-finds-eft-tapping-lowers-cortisol-significantly

This article (Simple Way to Handle Stress and Anxiety as It’s Happening, and Science Proves It) was originally created and published by Waking Times and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to Anna Hunt and WakingTimes.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Views expressed here do not necessarily reflect those of Waking Times or its staff.

How to Heal Emotional Trauma

By Nanice Ellis

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

Why is it so difficult to heal emotional trauma? Maybe it is because we do not understand what our emotional wounds really are, and therefore we go about healing in ways that can never work.

When I was young, I was in a horrifically abusive relationship for over a year. Even though I was able to eventually “get out” and save myself, it took me many years to figure out how to heal the deep emotional wounds.

Understanding Emotional Wounds

We tend to think of an emotional wound as the original traumatic experience – as the “thing” that happened to us, but the wound is actually the dis-empowering belief that we developed as a result of the traumatic experience.

In the search for emotional security, our natural response to any traumatic event is to make sense of it. We “make sense” of things by creating beliefs. Beliefs that we develop in response to traumatic experiences are Traumatic Beliefs. Because Traumatic Beliefs are disempowering and painful, they become emotional wounds.

The reason many people don’t heal is because they try to heal the original traumatic experience and not the Traumatic Belief. By understanding that emotional wounds are actually the Traumatic Beliefs that we hold about ourselves and/or the world, we have the power to heal.

When a child experiences himself as abandoned, for example, that child forms beliefs around abandonment in order to explain why he was abandoned. The child may answer the question, “Why?” by creating a belief that he was not good enough. The abandonment is the not the wound. The wound is the belief in unworthiness. In this case, healing involves releasing the Traumatic Belief of unworthiness.

Two people can experience the same trauma and have completely different responses, because they develop very different beliefs about the experience.

Traumatic Beliefs Create Emotional Needs

Traumatic Beliefs always create corresponding emotional needs which must be met in order to heal. The catch is that a Traumatic Belief also creates an invisible barrier that keeps the emotional need from being met. For example, if the Traumatic Belief is, “I am not worthy,” the emotional need is feeling worthy. If you could feel unconditionally worthy, the wound would heal. The problem is, if you believe that you are not worthy, you will block the feeling of worthiness because it does not align with your beliefs about worth. This is also why healing is so challenging.

Traumatic Beliefs are Self-fulfilling and Self-Sabotaging

When we have been wounded, we feel justified in holding onto Traumatic Beliefs. Part of us may even think that these beliefs keep us from getting hurt again, and the thought of releasing them makes us feel very vulnerable – without these beliefs, what will protect us? But, Traumatic Beliefs do not protect us in the first place. In fact, these beliefs are self-sabotaging by being self-fulfilling. When we look closely, it becomes apparent that these beliefs actually cause, attract and create more of what we do not want. All beliefs effect the quantum field that creates our reality, but Traumatic Beliefs have an even stronger influence on reality because they are fueled with intense emotional energy. Therefore, if we believe we are powerless, we attract situations to us that support that belief.

Take Full Responsibility

An essential key to healing is taking complete responsibility for your life and for your wounds. As long as you blame the outside world for your pain, you give away your power to heal. This is not about letting others off the hook who have harmed us. This is about empowering yourself to be whole. If you cannot find a way to take responsibility for your life experiences, then begin by taking responsibility for your beliefs. Regardless of what transpired in the outside world, you are the only one who thinks your thoughts and therefore you are responsible for creating and believing any Traumatic Beliefs. This means that you also have the power to release these beliefs, and, therefore, you can heal yourself.

Why are Traumatic Beliefs so Painful?

Traumatic Beliefs disconnect you from who you really are because your true self could never believe that you are powerless or unworthy. When you accept these disempowering beliefs, you experience separation from your true self and this is the cause of pain and suffering. The pain is your inner guidance system alerting you to the disconnection so that you can heal by releasing incongruent beliefs.

The Higher Purpose of Traumatic Experiences

The higher purpose of traumatic experiences is to point our attention to hidden or underlying beliefs that already exist in our psyche. The traumatic experience activates the hidden belief so that we are aware of it, in order to heal. This is the point. You cannot heal something that you are unaware of. The pain directs your attention to the belief that needs to be healed in order for you to awaken.

Four Traumatic Beliefs

In order to heal, it is important that you uncover the Core Traumatic Belief(s) of the wound. There are four Core Traumatic Beliefs: Victimhood, Powerlessness, Worthlessness and Loss. All Traumatic Beliefs fall into one or more of these four categories.

Victimhood

When I was in that horrifically abusive relationship, the greatest of the wounds was the belief that I was a victim; causing me to live in great fear for many years, even after the abuse had ended. Because I was desperate to heal and have my life back, I finally looked deep into my own self. Eventually, what I understood was that I was feeling like a victim well before that relationship had ever manifested. The relationship overtly demonstrated my inner beliefs in the outer world in a way that I could not ignore.

Later, as an adult, the healing was remembering, at the deepest level, that I was responsible for my own life, and that my life was a reflection of all my beliefs. I discovered that the opposite of victim is not survivor. The opposite of victim is creator. When I remembered that I was the creator of my life, victimhood could no longer exist – and the wound was permanently healed.

The key to healing the Traumatic Belief of victimhood is waking up to who you really are and remembering that you are the creator of your life. Maybe you don’t understand how you created something, and you would certainly not consciously create a traumatic event that would make you feel victimized, nonetheless, we unconsciously create from hidden subconscious beliefs, and physical events in our lives give us clues to these underlying beliefs.

Once we become aware of theses disempowering beliefs, we have the opportunity to consciously heal them, by over-turning them, declaring their falsehood and turning toward a higher truth. In this case, the higher truth is I am the creator of my life. True power comes from learning to be a conscious creator, but this can only happen as we flush out unconscious beliefs and we align with the truth of who we really are.

Powerlessness

Even before we experience any traumatic events, most of us are socialized to believe that the world has power over us. So, when a traumatic experience does unfold, the idea of being powerless is already in our belief system, therefore, powerlessness seems an appropriate way to make sense of a negative event.
Healing from the Traumatic Belief of powerlessness is embracing ones intrinsic power – not the power that comes from control, but rather the power that originates in the core of your being and connects you to the universe and all that is. Healing the Traumatic Belief of powerlessness is an emotional journey from powerless to powerful.

Worthlessness

Of all the Traumatic Beliefs, worthlessness runs the deepest. We are programmed to believe that we are unworthy from the time we are very young. So when we experience trauma, and we search internally for a belief that will make sense of the experience, unworthiness quickly answers the question, “Why did this happen to me?”

Of course, unworthiness is a false belief and therefore it must be exposed in order to be released. When it is hidden, there is no need to pay attention but once it causes pain, you must do something about it. The good and bad news is that the pain will not go away until the false belief of unworthiness is released and you cease seeking proof of your worth in the outside world. The world cannot give or take away your worth because your worth is intrinsic and guaranteed. Absolute healing is attained when you discover and claim your unconditional worth.

Loss

Often, when we have an emotional wound, we believe that someone has taken something from us. No matter how hard we try, it appears impossible to retrieve what has been stolen. This search often keeps the wound alive – believing that we have lost something and it must be retrieved keeps us locked in a vicious cycle of perpetual hurt.

Loss does not necessarily create an emotional wound. We all experience loss – loss of an aging parent or loss of a relationship, for example. Loss is part of the flow of life. Grieving is a natural response to loss and it is the process of letting go. However, if we do not let go, loss can turn into an emotional wound. This occurs when a Traumatic Belief is formed about the loss; for example, beliefs like, “no one will ever love me again,” or “everyone I care about leaves me.” Again, it is the Traumatic Belief that creates the emotional wound and not the loss itself.

When loss creates an emotional wound, we often close down and cut ourselves off from the very thing that could heal us. If we develop a Traumatic Belief around losing love, we not only block potential new relationships, we cut ourselves off from self-love and even higher love. In other words, we do to ourselves what we fear others might do to us.

The healing is remembering that the Source of who you really are provides all that you need, if only you ask, allow and receive – by trusting something greater than the physical self, you align with the rhythm of the universe where the idea of loss does not exist. Inherent in all Traumatic Beliefs is the absolute truth of your existence.

How do we actually heal Traumatic Beliefs?

Release Identification with the Wound

When we develop and feed wounds with our attention over the course of years, we begin to identify with the wound, or, better said, we create an identity around the wounded-self. So, now we are not just releasing a wound, we are letting go of our identity. The thing is, you are not and can never be a wounded identity. This is a false belief and a false identity. In order to heal, it is important that you begin to release the identification with the wound, and that you begin to see yourself as whole – not the wounded self, but the whole self. Who are you without this wound? This is who you really are, and this is who you must become again.

Meet Your Own Emotional Needs

Emotional wounds are often left open because we continue to look to others to meet our emotional needs. In order to heal, we must take responsibility for our own emotional needs and we must find ways to meet them. So, instead of looking to others for love, for example, we must love ourselves. By giving ourselves love, we fill the wound, and we heal.

Transformational Forgiveness

Transformational Forgiveness is not about forgiving another or forgiving ourselves, as much as it is about letting go of the beliefs that keep us trapped – as the prisoner of unhealed wounds. Ask yourself, “Do I want to heal more than I want to hold onto these beliefs?” If the answer is yes, it is time to let go of disempowering false beliefs.

Allow Emotions to Process Through

In order to heal an emotional wound, emotions must be able to “process through” until completion. If we allow our emotions to come up over and over again without resolution, we are actually reactivating the wound and each time we do, it magnifies. Healing requires resolution. This means feeling your emotions completely and not pushing them down or away. The healing comes when you allow your emotions space to be experienced until the process is complete. In order to allow emotions to “process through” you must get in your body. Emotional wounds are stored in the body, and therefore the way to release them is by getting in your body and feeling your emotions until the process feels complete.

Revision

Since the mind does not know the difference between real and imagined, it is possible to go back to a past event and revise it in such a way that the wound automatically heals. The key to successful revision is giving your past-self a new set of beliefs that empower him or her to know your worth, power and connection to who you really are. In this way, you can revise your past-self to speak the truth, set a boundary or exercise personal power in a way that allows your past-self to rise up; ultimately avoiding the emotional trauma or responding to the traumatic event in a way that no wound was created.

Look for a Deeper Truth

For me, my complete healing came from the realization that the person whom I thought hurt me was actually in my life to save me, by physically demonstrating the emotional abuse that I was imposing on myself. Without him serving me in this way, how would I have been able to identify my feelings of victimhood, worthlessness and powerlessness that I carried from childhood? By understanding this deeper truth, my emotional pain transmuted into gratitude. There is always a deeper truth. If you haven’t uncovered a truth that sets you free, go deeper, and keep going until you find it.

Rise Above

Every thought and belief has a coinciding vibration. Fear is at the low end of the vibratory spectrum while love is at the high end. Emotional wounds are low vibratory beliefs about oneself and/or the world. The wound exists at a low vibration and it keeps you stagnated at this low vibration. If you were to consistently raise your vibration to a higher vibration and keep it there, the wound could not exist. In other words, if you turned your full attention toward love and forgiveness, the wound would dissolve because it cannot exist at a high vibration.

The Commitment to Heal

Healing requires commitment and consistency. Because trauma wires your brain for disempowering beliefs, emotional healing requires the re-wiring of your brain for empowering beliefs; this involves the development of new conscious thought patterns that are consistently practiced over a period of time.

Enlisting the help of a healing professional to assist you may exponentially quicken the healing process, but in the end you must do it for yourself. In healing yourself you discover the strength, courage and power to live your life the way it was intended to be lived. If you are here to help others heal, maybe you access the skills to do so, that could not have been acquired in any other manner than going through the process yourself.

The ultimate healing is the awakening to your power and worth. You cannot remember that you are unconditionally worthy and intrinsically powerful and still maintain emotional wounds. There is nothing that cannot be healed through the power of knowing your Real Self.

Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Buddha Got Mad

From the editor…

Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Buddha Got Mad - CoverIt’s easy to express your spirituality when life is going the way you want it to, but what happens in the middle of everyday chaos, when your days are not long enough, your car breaks down, and your significant other is driving you crazy?

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Nanice Ellis main 150x150 Are You More Awake Than Your Family? 12 Ways to Heal Family Relationships for the HolidaysNanice Ellis has been a professional Life Coach for over 17 years, successfully coaching women and men from all over the world. Nanice is also a Theta Healer and Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.

Helping people to make quantum jumps  in their lives, Nanice’s very unique coaching style is often referred to as the “Nanice Effect”. By using powerful and proven manifestation techniques, Nanice coaches people to tap into the power of the Universe and live their dreams, bridging the gap from the imagination to the realization of that dream.  She  works with leaders, coaches, healers and anyone who wants  to live life to the fullest. The coaching programs offered include:  Live Your Dream Coaching Program…  Manifestation Breakthrough Program… Re-program Yourself for Success…  and  Healing Emotional Wounds.

Nanice is also the host of radio show “Chai with Nanice”  and  the author of several books including  The Infinite Power of You!  22 Secrets to Unlocking Your Personal Power, and her latest publication  Out of the Jungle  (a beginner’s guide to Ayahuasca). Her books are available here at Nanice.com/6/Books  and  Amazon.com/Nanice Ellis.