The Essence Of Gratitude And How It Can Help You Cultivate Happiness

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Gratitude is more then an idea; it’s a state of being. Gratitude is the embodiment of unconditional love because with it comes a means to be positive regardless of outside circumstances.

You can be in a very bleak situation and it may seem like things are not going your way, but with gratitude you can change that perspective. By focusing on what your grateful for; you’ll invite more people, things and events into your life that bring feelings of gratitude. We are what we focus on; by focusing on gratefulness you will become more grateful.

Now many of us find it difficulty to be grateful at times but that’s only because we’re blinded by our desires. Many of us have narrowly conceptualized our sense of worth according to our desires. If we’re unable to fulfill our desires we have the tendency to fall into a negative stupor. This state of mind hinders our ability to feel positive emotions; such as gratitude, happiness, joy and love.

Which is why it’s important to carefully evaluate our thoughts, beliefs and desires to better understand ourselves. Many of our beliefs and thoughts are the result of unbridled desires. We live in a world governed by materialism; thus desires rein supreme. Many of these desires though are unfounded and irrelevant. That is something we must all become aware of.

For example, many people in today’s society equate happiness with possessions. People strive to have a house, car, family and wealth thinking these things will increase the amount of happiness in their life. Unfortunately though that’s not how it works, it is not the thing that makes you happy; it is your choice(consent) in believing that things will make you happy that makes you happy. Happiness is a choice; when you choose to believe things will make you happy; they will; but only temporally because this world is temporal; by focusing on that which is temporal; you equate your sense of happiness as being temporal. Thus happiness becomes a fleeting idea to you.

Now by all means don’t believe that I’m bashing the idea of raising a family, accumulating wealth or buying a car or house. These things are neutral upon themselves; what I’m merely attempting to convey is the need to focus on one’s own sense of happiness from within. When we externalize our sense of happiness we give our power away to a external source. All that we need can be found from within; that includes happiness.

Gratitude helps in cultivating happiness, joy and love. By being grateful for what you already have you receive more positivity. Don’t spend so much time focusing on what you don’t have; instead focus on what you do have. You are what you focus on; so if you focus on negativity; you will reap negativity. If you focus on positivity; you will reap positivity. It really is that simple.

So if you find yourself getting into negative thoughts and behaviors; first thing you should do is to accept how you feel. Don’t condemn your thoughts or feelings; that will not help you in anyway. Practice acceptance and let them go; start to think about the things that you’re grateful for.

What I tend to do when I find myself in a negative state of being is start thinking to myself what I have in my life that I am grateful for. At first; this may seem difficult; especially when your feeling very negative. Yet; when you start thinking about it; you’ll have many things come to your awareness that bring feelings of gratitude. Such as “I’m grateful for my health.” or “I’m grateful for my family” and even “I’m grateful my Creator.” By doing this; you’re sending out positive vibes to the universe; which the universe will gladly respond to with more positivity. When you send out positive thoughts and deeds; you shall receive positive thoughts and deeds.

Many times though; we may fall into the pattern of comparing ourselves to others. Which will diminish our sense of gratitude and happiness. This is only because we’ve allowed ourselves to believe in some kind of idea. This idea is based in the realm of desire; we have an idea of what we think we should be like; if we’re not like that we get hard on ourselves. This leads to poor self esteem and negative state of mind.

I’ve come to discover this for myself. I had this idea of how I should be and if I fail to meet those expectations; I become very negative. If I come across anyone who I feel is exhibiting what I desire to be; I become envious and embroiled with jealousy. Most of the time this effects my relationship with this person and I become very combative with them.

This is why it’s of paramount concern for myself and many of you to be careful with desires. You don’t need to desire to be anyone else; except for yourself. Don’t fall into the pattern of comparing yourself to others. It doesn’t matter if someone appears to be more “Intelligent” or “Better Looking” then you. As the saying goes “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

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Everyone has their own opinion on what beauty and intelligence is. You are perfect as you are right now. Intelligence is determined by your own belief; not by comparison. Be grateful for who you are; be grateful for what you know. Gratitude will help you be your perfect self. Because at the end of the day; you are perfect all the time; even the times when you feel or think you’re not.

So my friends; be grateful all the time. When you feel ungrateful; be grateful that you can feel ungrateful. That is the beauty of life; you yourself can be whatever you want to be. When you explore your own inner landscape; you see that it isn’t one or the other. You can be grateful when your ungrateful. You can be ungrateful when your grateful. You don’t have to pick one of the other; they both can coexist in the same space.

That is perfectly illustrated with the Yin and Yang symbol below. When you look at this ancient Taoist symbol you see the unity of light and darkness, good and bad, positivity and negativity. They coexist as one; because they are a whole. Therefore; in one form of another; ungratefulness is gratefulness; it’s just the opposite side of the coin; yet it’s the same coin at the end of the day.

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Remember; gratitude can assist in becoming the happiness you already are. Focus on gratitude and you shall be more grateful and happy. Until next time my friends; take care and many blessings to you all.

Timothy Frappier

When Depression Comes Knocking On Your Door; Take Solace In the Truth

Many of us fall into these patterns of depression out of habit. We’ve become accustomed to things going bad for us; thus we unconsciously keep creating circumstances in our life to mirror this internal belief. Depression is a result of a idea or an belief; it’s self created by us.

Many times depression is the result of desires, judgments and control. We desire certain things in our life, whether it be wealth, good career or fame. The point being is that we’ve invested our sense of worth into some kind of idea. This is a judgment and a contributing factor to why we’re constantly finding ourselves depressed.

We’ve been conditioned for so long to seek our happiness outside of us that it’s been imprinted into our unconscious mind. Many of us are unaware that we’re attempting to find happiness externally. Only when we gather the courage to look within ourselves will we find the answers we need.

The answer begins within the Eternal Now. By focusing on the present moment you start to see that life is a matter of choice. We can choose to be happy or depressed. Even if life appears to not be going in our favor we can still be happiness; because in the end happiness is a state of mind.

Read: Embrace The Stillness And Be The Eternal 

What I’ve learned on my journey of life is the importance of maintaining a positive attitude even in the face of so many circumstances that would justify why I should be depressed. Depression is a state of lack; lack is separation and separation only exists within duality. When we really start to see this Truth and live by it, not just say it, things begin to slowly change from within.

It is our depression that will help us relate to others. don’t view depression as a negative thing; appreciate it; love it and learn what needs to be learned in order for you to move on. Depression is result of our Higher Self; they’re trying to guide us to some kind of understanding. Don’t think that means your unhappiness derives from a external source; because in the end we are our Higher Selves. Yet since we’re still living in the land of duality; free-will is still considered and respected. Thus our higher-self cannot force us into this understanding, we have to genuinely desire it.

The outside world is an reflection of our internal world. When we are depressed it is so that we can refine ourselves through careful, compassionate and brave introspection. It is our moments of extreme depression and pain that we find our true strength as a people and individuals.

Seeing depression as a necessary catalyst for higher understanding and growth disempowers the negativity associated with it. Modern society is quick to judge individuals with depression as weak, unproductive or damaged goods. Yet in reality; those who have hit rock bottom and manage to overcome it find a boon that is the envy of many. This boon is a outlook of life discovered within oneself; it is the discovery of the holy grail within one’s temple. With this grail we discover the only thing required for us to drink from the eternal streams of happiness is choice. Happiness no longer is external; happiness becomes internal. Finding happiness transforms into being happiness.

What I’ve been working on is trying to be happy regardless of external stimuli. My mind can create a plethora of reasons and examples that justify why I should keep believing I’m unworthy, a failure and no good. These ideas reinforce my depression and keep me in a state of perpetual misery. Thus the need to counteract depression with sound reasoning has become a necessity if I am to live a happy life.

Something that I’ve learned that can really help in overcoming depression is view it in a different light. Where I see misery; I look for the happiness. Where I see pain, I look for compassion and where I see fear I look for love. I take the time to analyze my circumstances in order to maintain a balanced consciousness. Keeping these seemingly opposing forces in balance has helped me tremendously. By practicing this I’ve been able to maintain a loving state of being more frequently.

Rudolf Steiner encourages us to find a sense of balance as well. He viewed Ahriman and Lucifer as opposing forces that need to be held in balance. The Ahriman force is one that is solely planted in the concrete things of life. It’s sense of interfacing with reality is intimately intertwined with the human sensory inputs. It values what it can see, touch, smell, hear and taste. The Lucifer aspect though is more of a dreamer. It tends to separate us from our earthly embodiment by making us desire hallucinatory realities versus our present earthly incarnation.

“Lucifer is too warm, too flighty, too unstable; he inspires human fanaticism, false mysticism, hot-bloodedness, and the tendency to flee earthly reality for hallucinatory pleasures. Ahriman is too cold, too hard, too rigid; he tries to make people dry, prosaic, philistine, materialistic in thought and in deed — and hardens what would be healthily mobile, supple thoughts, feelings, and even bodies.” – Source

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Rudolph Steiner teaches that the Christ Consciousness is the balancing of these two forces. It holds the two forces as one; constantly keeping them in balance in order to unite these forces as one. The Christ Consciousness is the unifier; while the Ahriman and Lucifer forces seek to separate us in one form or another. The Christ Consciousness seeks to create a coherent understanding that allows opposites to be one. By doing this; we essentially transcend the duality by refining our awareness to recognize the unity in all things.

When we keep these opposites in balance and maintain our own Christ Consciousness; we help created this unified understanding. This is the origin of the saying of ORDO AB CHAO; which is latin for “Order of out Chaos”. That is the work many of us have decided to undertake; this is why many of us are here upon this planet. To bring Order to Chaos; so that they may coexist as One. For in the end; all is One.

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It’s also important to remember that things come in cycles; that includes depression. So if your depressed; the quicker you’re able to accept it, the sooner you’ll be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. When we boldly take the step to accept and embrace our depression we open up channels to infinite wisdom. It was during my darkest moments in life that I discovered who I am. Embrace your darkness; learn and look for the divine wisdom embedded within it.

This will take time; your not going to be able to find the wisdom in every experience immediately. Some things will take awhile in order for you to gain the proper understanding. The key to accelerate this process is patience. Patience is a virtue; one that keeps us in balance. Impatience creates restlessness, it makes us feel that we need something in order to be something. Yet all is perfect right now, there is no need for impatience because all is well in all of creation. Let go of expectations, judgments and desires; in the end they are poisonous unless balanced through the Christ Consciousness.

Many of us are afraid to let go of our desires. We’ve been raised in a materialistic society, where desire is the idol we constantly pay homage to. We’ve been living in this consumerist society for so long that it has become the staple of our life. We don’t know what to do without them; when we attempt to purge desires from our consciousness we’re left with the fear of losing our identity. This fear is why we’re really depressed; it’s not that life is bad; it’s just that our way perceiving reality is through the template of desires(wants & likes).

We’ve come to view desires as being a means to feel happy and fulfilled. When someone gets a new car, they feel good, when someone gets that job they’ve been trying to get for years, they feel good and when someone becomes famous, they feel good. The thing we overlook though is that this sense of happiness is fleeting. As time goes on, that feeling dissipates and we’re even more depressed then we were before. It also makes it harder for us to feel good again; we have to keep getting more, buying more and becoming more. Thus in the end; desire can only exist within the lack paradigm.

When we let go of the image we’ve created for our life and the judgments we have about it; then we can truly be happy. Depression cannot coexist within a consciousness that is free of temporal desires and judgments. This will be hard at first; but eventually though it will become easier. The turning point is when you can truly be happy regardless of outside circumstances.

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So in a way; your depression could be a blessing in disguise. You could literally be one step away from total and utter liberation from the forces of separation. All that is required is for you to be the happiness right now. Because you are all that you need in order to be happy. So stop with the desires and start being that which you wish to be.

Timothy Frappier

Fear Not What Others Think

Greetings Beloveds,

Many times we fear what others think of us because we feel that the opinions of others define us as human beings. So we attempt to manipulate others so that they will view us as a good, intelligent or competent person. Many of us form multiple personalities according to the individuals who we interact with. We use observation, intuition and intelligence to gauge people in order to better understand how we can get them to like us.

Many of us have become a Chameleon in some sense. Blending in with our environment in order to learn the most effective way to manipulate this reality to our desire. We’ll act differently towards people dependent upon who we’re interacting with. We may appear to be loving, kind and considerate to one person, but then the exact opposite to another. We do this because many of us want the approval of others. We define our sense of worth and value based upon the thoughts and opinions of others.

The Truth is though that you don’t need the approval of anyone; except for yourself. You are the one who has to live with yourself; therefore you’re opinion of yourself is the one that matters. The opinions of others is totally irrelevant when it comes to your sense of worth. Your value is determined by you alone, not by others. We don’t need to worry what others think; we can be free to just simply be ourselves.

When we give into the idea that the opinions of others determine our sense of value or worth; we give our power away. It becomes dependent upon an external thing, idea or person. When in reality your worth is found within. You yourself can choose to be happy regardless of outside circumstances. The inner world is where you find true value.

So my beloveds, remember this when you feel sad or depressed because someone doesn’t like you. Though it may be painful; know this, that your value is not determined by their thoughts or ideas. You have value regardless of all the thoughts and opinions others hold about you. Free yourself from the shackles of disempowerment, realize that you have all that you need within you. Be that worthiness and know that you can choose to be worthy right now.

Be yourself; that’s all you need to concern yourself with. When we focus on being our true authentic self we bring true happiness into realization. This sense of happiness doesn’t derive from others; it comes from within. It’s always been within us all along. Never was there a moment when this sense of worth ever left us. We only temporally allowed ourselves to forget our true value so that we could experience life in duality. Even that though must come to an end; because that which has an beginning has and end.

Timothy Frappier

Warning Signs From The Universe

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Warning Signs From The Universe

Many people believe that things “just happen” to them, but as we connect more closely to our intuition we are shown that everything that happens to us is of our own creation.

We may not be fully aware of what we are creating moment to moment, but fortunately the universe provides us with many signs to let us know when we are on the right path, and (more importantly) when we are on the wrong path.

This article will focus on the warning signs from the universe.

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In general, warning signs from the universe occur in the form of unwanted circumstances and events.

These signs are an indication that your energy is headed towards (or currently stuck in) a low vibrational frequency.

Your thoughts, feelings and actions are focused negatively, and this is creating unwanted circumstances.

Conversely, when your thoughts, feelings and actions are moving at a high vibrational frequency, life will line up perfectly.

You will have excellent timing and good luck all day long. This is why it’s so important to raise your vibration by consciously choosing positive thoughts.

Although we have the ability to resonate at a high vibrational frequency, it is challenging for us to stay elevated all of the time.

This is because our souls are stuck here on Earth in a physical dimension that is much denser and slower than the higher, ethereal dimensions.

The simple makeup of our planet and bodies is composed of much lower vibrational energy than that of our souls.

As a result, we will likely bump up against unwanted circumstances from time to time, but that’s ok.

As long as we heed these warning signs (without allowing our egos to fixate on them!) we can get back on track quickly.

As you move through your day, it’s a good idea to take note of the warning signs from the universe.  Here are a few examples of signs to be mindful of:

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  1. Stubbing your toe
  2. Getting stuck in traffic
  3. Receiving dirty looks or snide remarks from others
  4. Getting injured
  5. Unexpected expenses or bills in the mail
  6. Uneasy gut feelings
  7. Arguments with your loved ones
  8. Getting sick
  9. Headaches
  10. Losing or breaking your possessions
  11. Unpleasant odors, sounds or tastes

Each of these signs is an indication that you need to center yourself and adjust your frequency. When you encounter one of these warning signs, please stop!

Do not keep working on that task, or having that conversation, or obsessing over that thought that you were just having because it is not taking you where you want to be.

Instead, take a deep breath, step away from the situation, or even take a minute to meditate if you are able to.

If you catch these warning signs quickly and respond immediately, the simple act of centering yourself will stop the negative momentum.

As a final note, please try not to obsess over a warning sign. Talking about it, thinking about it and replaying it your mind is a surefire way to lower your vibrational frequency.

Take it for what it is, a simple “stop sign,” and move on from it. Please take care of your vibration; only give attention to the thoughts, feelings and actions that resonate with your soul’s natural frequency.

XO, Andrea Schulman — Make sure to check out Andrea’s Law of Attraction 30-Day Trial Membership

Arnold Abbot is charged again for Feeding the Homeless

Arnold Abbott, 90, said he thinks the police 'feel a little guilty doing their job.'

Arnold Abbott, 90, said he thinks the police ‘feel a little guilty doing their job.’

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When 90-year-old Florida resident Arnold Abbott said following his arrest on Sunday that police couldn’t stop him from feeding the homeless, he apparently meant it.Abbott was charged again on Wednesday night for violating a new city law in Ft. Lauderdale that essentially prevents people from feeding the homeless.

“I expected it” he said in a Sun Sentinel report. “At least this time they let us feed people first.”

Officers lingered in the area for about 45 minutes during which time Abbott and volunteers with the Love Thy Neighbor charity he founded handed out more than 100 plates of hot chicken stew, pasta, cheesy potatoes and fruit salad to homeless men and women.

If he’s found guilty of violating city ordinance laws — his second in a week — he faces 60 days in jail or a $500 fine.

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Abbott said he’s prepared to go to jail over his efforts.

“Why do I keep doing this?” he asked rhetorically. “Because these are my people and they deserve to be fed.”

In a slightly more confrontational incident on Sunday, four police cruisers and approximately a half dozen officers with the Ft. Lauderdale Police Department descended upon an area in the city where Abbott, charity representatives and church members were handing out hot meals to local homeless people.

One officer demanded that he “drop that plate right now” as others picked up the trays off food and inserted them directly into the garbage with lines of homeless people looking on.

Abott and representatives from his charity handed out more than 100 plates to homeless people on Wednesday night before being taken in custody by Ft. Lauderdale police.

Abott and representatives from his charity handed out more than 100 plates to homeless people on Wednesday night before being taken in custody by Ft. Lauderdale police.

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The new law in Ft. Lauderdale comes after the city announced in January that people are restricted from camping, panhandling, food sharing and engaging in other “life sustaining activities.” The laws regarding food sharing where ironically enacted on Halloween when millions of people were out sharing candy.

Abbott applauded the officers for being more courteous in their enforcement of the law the second time around this week.

“They were very gentle,” Abbott said. “I think they feel a little guilty doing their job.”

To Be Happy or not to Be Happy, that is the question

We all know the famous Shakespeare line, “To be or not to be? that is the question.” and there is much wisdom in that statement. Many times we forget that our unhappiness or lack is a result of the state of being we’ve choose to be.

If you want happiness, than be happiness; if you want abundance than be abundance. It’s really that easy and the only reason we struggle with this is because we’re choosing to be what we don’t prefer. Our sense of unhappiness is a direct result of our thoughts, emotions and actions; many of us have become our own worst enemy.

The first step in attaining happiness is by taking responsibility of one’s life. We most quit blaming others or circumstances for why we are so unhappy or lacking. This practice or habit is very disempowering because we’re essentially saying others have the ability to influence us.

When you take responsibility of your life you start to see that all of life is neutral. Only the mind can label something as good or bad. These attachments are the source of our unhappiness. We’ve come to believe in certain ideas as being preferable and when these do not come into fruition or remain unfulfilled we become negative. In order to let of these attachments we must relinquish our thoughts and ideas on how something should be.

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The second step in becoming happiness is to start letting go of desires. Desires are not bad, but we’ve taken it to a whole new level. We desire too much, this society we’ve created in America is one based upon materialism. We horde and constantly buy things in order to feel good about ourselves. We’ve put our identity into our possessions.

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If your one who owns your own house, car and have children, you’re considered living the American Dream. Yet, many people who have these things are very unhappy. Some of the richest people in the world are the most unhappy ones. We’ve attributed our sense of identity and worth to the things we accumulate in life. This is superficial though and will never leave us happy. It may excite us for a little, providing a distraction to our inner turmoil, but it will not last and our sense of unhappiness will come back with more strength.

Granted, having things or desiring them is not wrong, but when we seek satisfaction or happiness from them, than we’re bound to encounter difficulties. When I was young I remember getting all kinds of toys, video games and other things for my birthday. I would be very excited and happy for a couple days, but than it would slowly fade away. As I got older things didn’t really give me much happiness. Things started to lack appeal and I became even more unhappy.

The problem was that I was searching for happiness outside of me. I can be happy without things, I can be happy without desires. Desires are not necessary in being happy. As I started to work upon this idea I started to notice and see a significant change taking place within me. When I started to focus on feeling happiness, I would feel it with incredible power. I became that state of happiness without having to have some kind of activity or thing to be it. I choose to be happiness, thus as a result I was that happiness.

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Happiness is a state of being and there isn’t anything in the external world that will give you it. You must find happiness within yourself. Spend some time being happiness. Go to a quiet room in your house or apartment, sit on the floor and focus on feeling happiness. Pay attention to your body, feelings and thoughts. When thoughts come in, just let them drift away, focus on the emotion called happiness.

The more you practice this the better you will feel. You’ll start to realize that happiness is a choice, not a result of something from the external world. We don’t need things to act as permissions slips for us to be happy. We can be happy right now, all that is needed is to be that happiness.

Tis the Truth of life that we live. We ourselves are what we need in order to be what we wish to be. Nothing else is needed and will ever be needed. We have all that we need right now. Until next time my beloveds, have a great day and be happy!

Timothy Frappier