Fear Not What Others Think

Greetings Beloveds,

Many times we fear what others think of us because we feel that the opinions of others define us as human beings. So we attempt to manipulate others so that they will view us as a good, intelligent or competent person. Many of us form multiple personalities according to the individuals who we interact with. We use observation, intuition and intelligence to gauge people in order to better understand how we can get them to like us.

Many of us have become a Chameleon in some sense. Blending in with our environment in order to learn the most effective way to manipulate this reality to our desire. We’ll act differently towards people dependent upon who we’re interacting with. We may appear to be loving, kind and considerate to one person, but then the exact opposite to another. We do this because many of us want the approval of others. We define our sense of worth and value based upon the thoughts and opinions of others.

The Truth is though that you don’t need the approval of anyone; except for yourself. You are the one who has to live with yourself; therefore you’re opinion of yourself is the one that matters. The opinions of others is totally irrelevant when it comes to your sense of worth. Your value is determined by you alone, not by others. We don’t need to worry what others think; we can be free to just simply be ourselves.

When we give into the idea that the opinions of others determine our sense of value or worth; we give our power away. It becomes dependent upon an external thing, idea or person. When in reality your worth is found within. You yourself can choose to be happy regardless of outside circumstances. The inner world is where you find true value.

So my beloveds, remember this when you feel sad or depressed because someone doesn’t like you. Though it may be painful; know this, that your value is not determined by their thoughts or ideas. You have value regardless of all the thoughts and opinions others hold about you. Free yourself from the shackles of disempowerment, realize that you have all that you need within you. Be that worthiness and know that you can choose to be worthy right now.

Be yourself; that’s all you need to concern yourself with. When we focus on being our true authentic self we bring true happiness into realization. This sense of happiness doesn’t derive from others; it comes from within. It’s always been within us all along. Never was there a moment when this sense of worth ever left us. We only temporally allowed ourselves to forget our true value so that we could experience life in duality. Even that though must come to an end; because that which has an beginning has and end.

Timothy Frappier

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When a Child’s Life is Turbulent Parents Need To Take Solace in Compassion and Understanding

Life can be very hectic in our modern society. There seems to exists a vast plethora of ideas, things and situations in which we should worry about. We use worrying as a means of protecting ourselves from what we’ve come to believe is negative. In reality though; worrying doesn’t help us whatsoever. What little comfort or benefit we gain from it is short lived.

Many times we worry about things that don’t even come into being. For instance; let’s say a parent worries about their children. They think worrying is acceptable and that it’s perfectly natural. In reality though worrying is a fear based behavior and it doesn’t help whatsoever. In fact it is counterproductive to helping others.

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Worrying will only create more of what we don’t want in our lives. When we worry about things; we’re projecting fear based energy; when this fact is coupled with the tenants of the law of attraction we see that our worrying is the reason why we experience more of the things we don’t want. Fear attracts fear; so if we keep being fearful; we’ll keep manifesting and attracting more fears into our life. Like attracts like and remember the saying:

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When parents worry about their children it’s because they don’t want to destroy their sense of duty to their children’s wellbeing. The desire to protect our children is perfectly natural, but what many parents do is that they suppress their children with their attempts to protect them and fail to see they’re doing more damage than good by doing so. Many times parents project their ideas and beliefs onto their children in a attempt to make them the same as them in order to secure their safety and wellbeing.

Many parents don’t know the gifts and talents their children possess because their so focus on protecting their children that they don’t see the magnificent person their child is. They address things from the surface level and never really get the pleasure to understand their child. For instance let’s use an example. Let’s say Billy’s interests, hobbies and work is vastly different from his parents. Billy chooses to start a blog which helps thousands feel better about themselves everyday; but yet no one in his family has ever read a single article. They don’t know all the good that Billy does on this website. His ideas appear to be radical to their way of perceiving reality.

Let’s say that this blog that Billy started doesn’t make him money whatsoever. The parents try encourage Billy to get a full time job, but Billy doesn’t want to do that because he wouldn’t have time to write on his blog. Billy’s parents express disappointment and lack of support because they believe Billy needs a full time job. This creates a schism between Billy and his parents. Billy feels he cannot truly express himself to his parents because whenever he does his parents outright reject his ideas by virtue that it creates a sense of discomfort within them.

This sense of discomfort derives from Cognitive Dissonance which is when you’re confronted with an idea or belief that contrasts your own. They enter into a mild form of fight or flight mode and resist it vehemently. Most people don’t even possess the awareness of this process taking place. They believe it’s a perfectly natural response to what is. They view this belief, situation or idea as being a threat. Thus they conclude that if it is a threat to them; it is a threat to their child as well.

That doesn’t mean Billy’s parents are in the wrong or doing something bad. They just misunderstand Billy’s perspective and beliefs. Billy loves them regardless of them knowing what he does; because love doesn’t place expectations upon others. Love is free and flows with ease. We as guardians should strive to allow children to make their own choices and live life according to their own internal compass without pressure from parents.

What we see nowadays though is parents exerting their beliefs and opinions of life onto their children and if the child resists very little support comes from the parents. They justify this lack of cooperation through many ways; many times using guilt and fear to rationalize it. The Truth is though parents should encourage freedom of choice without pressuring them or making them feel “bad” for choosing to live a life that goes against their own beliefs.

 

Many parents nowadays believe they have it all figured out and that children need to solely learn from them. In reality though; there is no limit to how much we can learn from our children. We see this happen in schools as well; where teachers believe they know it all and if a student shares an idea that goes against what they were taught is the Truth; they will reject it. They don’t even consider it a possibility because they believe their degree makes them right. To be an true leader, a true authority one needs to remember that you never stop learning. There is never a time when we have it all figured out; when you believe you do; that’s when you know you don’t. The Truth is indifferent because it simply is what it is; when teachers reject ideas it’s because their ego is threatened.

Parents do this from a honest intent to help their children; but their misconstrued understanding of freedom has warped their sense of right and wrong. Parents believe their sense of right is the only one valid. They suppress new ideas and anything that they feel conflicts with their sense of continuity. If something comes into their awareness that threatens their sense of what is “right” they resist it.

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We need to allow children to make their own choices; but that doesn’t mean we allow them to come into harms way. If a child is walking on the road and about to get ran over; we run over to the child to get them out of the way. If a child is starting to make decisions and incorporate beliefs that raise concerns we can then talk it through with them. We must do this from a standpoint of not fixing or changing their minds; but instead from the mentality of compassion and understanding. Most of the problems we encounter in life derive from fear. If our child is having difficulties it’s because they are afraid.

Fear can be disarmed with understanding and compassion. Understanding your child is the key in helping heal their fears. When your understand them you’re essentially shedding light upon the darkness. You drive away fear with your willingly to understand and help them feel more connected. Compassion allows them to know that others really do care about them and that helps them open up even more. When you strive to understand your child you can learn so much from them.

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Cultivate an atmosphere of understanding and compassion. Practice listening and remaining indifferent to what is brought into your awareness. Don’t judge what is said and try not to influence them to think otherwise. Guide them with your own understanding of life and what you’ve discovered works for them. Don’t tell them to do anything; let them decide what is right. With a little guidance you can help them discover the answers within themselves. We’re meant to guide our children to their own understanding, not ours.

We can only share our own perspective and opinions on things. We cannot force them to change or control them. Controlling children will not work; it will cause them to rebel even more and slide deeper into darkness and despair. Don’t place any expectations upon them; let them be themselves, even it it goes against what you believe is right. Because the Truth is what is right for you may not be right for them. You never know they may be very successful with what they choose to do.

If something truly is bad for them; you must trust that even if they don’t listen to you at first that eventually they will come to see it as being bad through experience. If you try to control them and attempt to stop it from happening you only delay the inevitable because they will do it regardless of what you do because it’s something that can only be learned through experience. Some things we can guide our children to understand; but other things they will have to learn from experience. This is a fact of life and when we accept this truth we allow our children to empower themselves.

So my beloveds, be loving, open-minded, kind and compassionate to your children. Allow them to simply be who they are. Remain open to who they are and see the magic that has always been within them.

Timothy Frappier

 

Warning Signs From The Universe

Source: Humans Are Free

Warning Signs From The Universe

Many people believe that things “just happen” to them, but as we connect more closely to our intuition we are shown that everything that happens to us is of our own creation.

We may not be fully aware of what we are creating moment to moment, but fortunately the universe provides us with many signs to let us know when we are on the right path, and (more importantly) when we are on the wrong path.

This article will focus on the warning signs from the universe.

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In general, warning signs from the universe occur in the form of unwanted circumstances and events.

These signs are an indication that your energy is headed towards (or currently stuck in) a low vibrational frequency.

Your thoughts, feelings and actions are focused negatively, and this is creating unwanted circumstances.

Conversely, when your thoughts, feelings and actions are moving at a high vibrational frequency, life will line up perfectly.

You will have excellent timing and good luck all day long. This is why it’s so important to raise your vibration by consciously choosing positive thoughts.

Although we have the ability to resonate at a high vibrational frequency, it is challenging for us to stay elevated all of the time.

This is because our souls are stuck here on Earth in a physical dimension that is much denser and slower than the higher, ethereal dimensions.

The simple makeup of our planet and bodies is composed of much lower vibrational energy than that of our souls.

As a result, we will likely bump up against unwanted circumstances from time to time, but that’s ok.

As long as we heed these warning signs (without allowing our egos to fixate on them!) we can get back on track quickly.

As you move through your day, it’s a good idea to take note of the warning signs from the universe.  Here are a few examples of signs to be mindful of:

Warning Signs From the Universe

  1. Stubbing your toe
  2. Getting stuck in traffic
  3. Receiving dirty looks or snide remarks from others
  4. Getting injured
  5. Unexpected expenses or bills in the mail
  6. Uneasy gut feelings
  7. Arguments with your loved ones
  8. Getting sick
  9. Headaches
  10. Losing or breaking your possessions
  11. Unpleasant odors, sounds or tastes

Each of these signs is an indication that you need to center yourself and adjust your frequency. When you encounter one of these warning signs, please stop!

Do not keep working on that task, or having that conversation, or obsessing over that thought that you were just having because it is not taking you where you want to be.

Instead, take a deep breath, step away from the situation, or even take a minute to meditate if you are able to.

If you catch these warning signs quickly and respond immediately, the simple act of centering yourself will stop the negative momentum.

As a final note, please try not to obsess over a warning sign. Talking about it, thinking about it and replaying it your mind is a surefire way to lower your vibrational frequency.

Take it for what it is, a simple “stop sign,” and move on from it. Please take care of your vibration; only give attention to the thoughts, feelings and actions that resonate with your soul’s natural frequency.

XO, Andrea Schulman — Make sure to check out Andrea’s Law of Attraction 30-Day Trial Membership

Be Yourself and Watch the World Flourish

Being yourself is the key to transforming this world into the paradise it already is. Many of us nowadays overlook the fact that the external world is a reflection of our internal world. Our thoughts, beliefs and emotions maintain the external world. It is our consciousness and the state of being that creates this world and all the circumstances we find in it.

The key to creating a more loving and abundant world is to be this abundance. All that is needed is for one to see the abundance. We’ve been focusing so much on the negative that our world has become very polluted, destructive and violent. It is our focus, our attention to the negative things that maintain this paradigm.

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When we shift from focusing on the negative to the positive an internal shift occurs. We start to notice that we’re generally feeling better about ourselves and people around us. You start to display and express a sort of optimism that gains notice from others. This is the beginning of transforming your world. Your perspectives, opinions, and beliefs will drastically change. Everything about you will be imbued with this sense of love and positivity.

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After a certain threshold has been reached in regards to transforming your inner-world into a positive landscape you will begin to notice things coming into your life from the external world. You’ll suddenly find yourself attracting all the things you need to achieve your dream. Everything that you’ve always wanted to do will be easier to accomplish. This is because of the fact that your inner world has shifted so much from a negative perspective that it literally is attracting these things into your life.

Negativity is the separation, thus when you’re operating from a negative state of being you will repel all the circumstances, people and things you desire in life. Your unconsciously dis-attracting these things from you because of the fact you’re operating from a negative state of being. When you operate from a positive state of mind, you attract all the things you need in life to be yourself and to accomplish your aspirations and dreams.

This isn’t meant to seem like a punishment or something to be shameful of. This is called The Law of Attraction. The illusion of lack in the external world is meant to convey the message that you have some kind of belief, idea or emotion that is preventing the natural you from coming to the service. There is something creating a blockage that prevents your True Self from taking the helm of your life. It becomes paramount than to do your own Shadow Work, look for the fearful beliefs and ideas that keep your separate from your True Self.

Your True Self or as some have called the Higher Self is attempting to establish a line of communication with you, but since we as a species have decided to experiment within the land of separation it cannot directly intervene without infringing upon your free-will; which would make matters worse. So it helps guide you with circumstances, events and synchronicity in an attempt to try to direct your attention to your own inner world. It’s trying to tell you that separation is something that we ourselves created in order to experience it, but that at the end of the day it is nothing more than an illusion.

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You can equate this as an act of fishing on the Higher Self’s part. Just like in real fishing, you put the bait on the hook, throw the line into the water and hope to catch a fish. That’s what the Higher Self is attempting to do, it cannot force anything upon you, but it can try to communicate with you in ways that don’t infringe your free will.

A direct line of communication with your higher self is the key to being yourself. You are a magnificently multidimensional light being with incredible power and abilities. The fact we find ourselves in such a limited state is a testament to this. When you start accessing your Higher Self, it starts to take the helm of your life. You start to become the real you, the person who walks in accord to your own calling and purpose.

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By following your heart and being yourself you attract all that you need in your life. Happiness flows in abundance and love spreads wherever you place your focus and attention upon. You will assist this world and others by being an example worthy of imitation. You won’t have to preach or force people to behave in like manner. The essence of your being will naturally attract others towards you, they will want to be around you because of the energy, love and compassion you share with them.

Just as in the time of Jesus, he himself attracted large crowds and even to this day is remembered because of the love, compassion, joy and happiness he shared with humanity by being his true self. That is all that is needed at the end of the day, just to be yourself. You don’t need to accomplish any type of external goal and mission to achieve this. All that is needed is to be yourself.

So my beloved friends and family, I want to impart to you the beauty and magic of being yourself. However you choose to do this depends on you. The subjective nature as to what interests you and makes your heart sing is meant to be the allurement to seek who thou really are. Only you can do what is meant for you to do, no one else can do it, never ever can you be replaced whatsoever. You are priceless and NOT replaceable, nothing can ever deny this Truth, except for yourself. Only YOU have the capacity to deny this Truth to yourself, no one outside of you can.

So remember the power that you house within yourself. Remember that you choose to be here for a reason. Nothing happens in life by accident; you don’t exist because of set of randomized circumstances that resulted from chance. All is orchestrated and connected, nothing truly is separate. We are all One at the end of the Day. Till next time my beloveds, have a wonderful day.

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Timothy Frappier

 

Why We Have to Feel to Heal

Source: The Mind Unleased

The shunning of feelings, especially in Westernized culture, has left a deep scar in our psyches. Some of the most profound therapy for the spirit comes from truly experiencing our emotions, so how do we heal when we simply can’t feel?

Ironically, to ‘shun’ our feelings leaves our ‘shen’ wounded. Shen is what the ancient Chinese called the spark of the divine within us. Shen manifests in many ways including the ability to forgive, show compassion, appreciate beauty, and have mercy for others, but we are taught from a very young age that our feelings are ‘bad’ or ‘wrong,’ and then spend a lifetime wondering why we suffer from ailments as varied as cancer or rheumatoid arthritis.

E-motion is energy that cannot move. It is trapped. It is this stagnation that is thought to cause disease. When we feel an emotion we are actually feeling the movement of energy through our bodies. Our refusal to feel means that we biochemically and biophysically halt energetic freedom.

Science is still trying to catch up with ancient philosophies which understood how important ‘feelings’ actually are to our overall physical and mental well-being. We just now are starting to draw the correlations between certain pains in the body and their correspondence to unfelt feelings.

A woman who was once suicidal until she learned to truly feel her feelings has these four questions you can ask yourself to help you get unstuck from feelings that are difficult to experience:

1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How does it make you feel when you think the thought (…..)?
4. Who would you be without the thought (….)?

Energy in Motion = Emotion

Socrates understood that energy is separate from matter as we have conventionally defined it. The Universe is made up of oscillating, moving, swirling energy, and so are you. This energy was present long before the earth ever formed.

Since your body is nothing more than an amalgamation of energy vibrating at a certain velocity, then you can understand how stagnant emotion or energy would cause the ‘water to dirty’ in the clear pool of our divine being.

“It’s not something you can say in 25 words or less. It is a whole new paradigm shift that basically leads you to realize you’re not alone. You are connected to everybody else. Your emotions are key. And you are leaving a wake, changing the world around you in a huge way.” ~ Candice Pert

In fact, unconscious emotion – that is the energy we have ‘frozen’ within our bodies, is usually ruling us. Anger, fear, hatred, lust, greed, cowardice, hurt, sadness, etc. are not inherently ‘bad,’ but if they are not felt fully when experienced we usually form unconscious habits surrounding those emotions which then eventually manifest as disease.

Bruce Lipton, and other researchers, including Russian cosmonauts learned that feelings trigger the release of tiny neuropeptides (NPs). These are absolutely critical for metabolic functioning. NPs are responsible for regulating hundreds of different functions, including the release of hormones in the body.

Still other researchers, including Candice Pert, a Chief Scientist of brain biochemistry at the National Institutes of Health, determined that every emotional state carries with it, a specific, identifiable frequency. When we feel ‘positive emotions’ like joy or thankfulness, our neuropeptides tell the body to release endorphins like oxytocin, which make us feel happy – creating a self-fulfilling prophecy-like feedback loop. While feeling negative emotions doesn’t cause an immediate dump of stress hormones, the prolonged presence of these emotions (usually buried in our subconscious) causes all matter of havoc to ensue within the body’s communication systems and hormonal flow.

“As our feelings change, this mixture of peptides travels throughout your body and your brain. They are literally changing the chemistry of every cell in your body.” ~ Candice Pert

Where do Unfelt Feelings Go?

In ancient yogic texts, we learn that unfelt emotions get stored in the body, but where do they go, exactly?

Rejected feelings not only get stored in our physical bodies, they get warehoused in our energetic bodies. When we bump into someone who triggers a feeling of shame, sadness, or hurt, it usually means that they are triggering the memory of an unfelt feeling which has been shunned and placed (temporarily) into our energetic storage locker – the chakra system. Instead of being angry at those people for showing you where your wounds are, you can use their presence as a cue to start feeling some of your old, dusty, discarded feelings.

The more they make you feel ___________ (insert unpleasant feeling) the more the opportunity for healing is present.

The Chakra system is also connected to the physical body, and can be very telling about energy that is stagnant or stored therein.

The lower three chakras, the Root, Sacral and Solar Plexus chakras are ruled by what is called Goddess or Mother Energy and our intuition. They keep us grounded to the earth – our home. The heart chakra in the middle considered the bridge between our base emotions and the higher, spiritual abilities.

The upper three chakras – the throat, third eye, and crown chakras are governed by divine inspiration. All of the chakras are important, and store emotions according to their governance. For instance, if you are a workaholic, and have issues with trust you have stored unfelt emotion in your root or sacral chakras. If you have issues with speaking your truth, or being honest with yourself or others, you likely have stagnant energy in the throat chakra.

Letting the Flood Gates Open

When we meditate, or practice using other spiritual tools, we are really not changing anything about ourselves or our experience. We are already divine beings. What we are doing, is allowing, with love and consciousness, the stored emotion to flow freely again. Once this energy is consciously felt, it no longer has to be rehashed over and over again by the subconscious mind.

From this more conscious place, we can literally change our vibrations, alter our physiology, and be ‘cured’ from every possible ailment imaginable.

To heal, we must feel, and from this profound place of peace, we return to our wholeness.

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YOU Are The UNIVERSE!

YOU Are The UNIVERSE!

Source: In5D

by Layaal Khaleel,

Guest writer, In5D.com

Yes you right there, reading this article, you hold the universe within you. Why do I say this? It is because of the pure potential you have within you to liberate yourself from any oppressions. A lot of times I have seen people simply giving up on their dreams due to their circumstances. It always goes with either there is no one to believe in you or you do not believe in yourself. What is really important to remember is if you do not believe in yourself, no one else can really change your mind unless you allow your mind to be changed. You need to remember that you posses divine consciousness and all the answers you need are within you

Never give up on yourself. It is actually the time to keep your dreams alive, because you are the one who has to take care of yourself and remember that when you love yourself with the unconditional love, you would only want to do things that helps you grow and do what resonates with your soul. if you are someone who would like to stand on his or her own two feet this is, remember challenges are there only to help you get stronger so then you have the strength to carry on and you would only know how strong you are when a challenge rises so do not believe that when something does not go your way it is working against you because you do also have the answer to the problem just always remember to make cautious choices because our choices make a lasting impact in this lifetime.

To be precise, the reason that you are born as a human and not existing in this world as some seashell on the shore absolutely means that you are here to more than just exist; you are here because you have a purpose. Most of us state how important it is to give good vibes to people around you; well wouldn’t you want to give this world good energy? So you may not know what you want to do and well time will tell if you really seek an answer follow the little things that trigger a burning passion within you and soon you will connect dots and know the answer. The world needs love, and we are love, we are capable of being peaceful with one another and one way for this is to support one another in their goals and helping find one’s passion even finding your own passion can simply contribute to making the world a better place because you are doing something with love which will raise your vibration that will impact people around you and the world.

Always look out for yourself because you are important, you are special and you are existing in this moment, reading this article and it is not a coincidence that you are reading this article.You are reading it because you need to be reminded that HEY! You are the Universe, you are loved and you have the potential to be in service to the world and contribute to peace. You can always have the room to be a better person.

You have the sole power to make decisions. The decisions that could either empower you or hinder yourself. It is obvious that none of you would want the latter. Empowering yourself can bring you benefits beyond your thoughts. It is giving you the power to become who you want to be. It is giving you the power to not bother about what people say but go on with your life with this amazing thing called optimism. It is giving you the confidence and most importantly the belief of believing in yourself. When you believe in yourself you seriously do not need anyone to believe in you. When you do believe in yourself, you start mold your mentality with positivity. Despite the circumstances, despite the goodness, despite how blessed or cursed you are, if you have a mindset of an optimistic, if you step by step push yourself to say whatever has happened or whatever you are going through will not define you but you will overcome it and get to the finish line, then that is you being the universe.

The universe withstands and has withstood what many storms or sunshine or hay or light or wars it has to exist through. You have the power within you to have a say in your life, and you definitely have the choice to do more than just exist and just like the universe you can withstand any hardships because do know that at the end, whichever obstacle is there in front of you, it is giving you the chance to make yourself stronger, be wiser and be more passionate about the things YOU want to do and let it be something that also brings good vibes to people around you. It is only when you truly suffer you would know how important it is to look after yourself. A lot of people have the tendency to envy what someone has got or who someone is. This is not healthy for your soul. You have to remember that you are not that person. You have your own person. You have to remember to indulge in things that give youinner peace. This is not an unattainable thing. It is all about having the control of your own life and your own mind. Let it be lethargy, love, guilt, happiness, it is all a phase that you can always have the power to swerve away from but do remember lessons will be repeated until you learn what you are supposed.

Do not think that you always be stuck in a rabbit hole, instead find a way to come up, your mind holds the key because your mind is just like the universe, meditate and you will understand that you have infinite potential to break away from anything that hinders you and find what works for you and find your higher self.

About the author: Layaal Khaleel is an undergrad studying International Relations in Colombo Sri Lanka.